As parents or those who care for teens life can be an amazing adventure of spontaneity and new insights. I don’t know about you but I love being with teens.
They are a combination of electric sparks, simmering pots of water boiling on a stove, generous and loving, seeking wisdom at times or avoiding the wisdom while slamming doors!
Raising teens has given me an opportunity to ponder my own adolescent past, the good, the bad, and the whoopsies. I want to watch teens grow into what God has planned. I also know, He will use their solid choices and their missteps for amazing good. God knows their futures, we must trust Him!
Romans 8:28 NLT
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
The uncertainty of their futures with a developing teen brain brings great willingness to try new things, while us parents like a more controlled circumstance. This can be a great foundation in laying their lives out for His purpose. They need their parents or adult guardians even if they think otherwise.
However, the impulsive nature of a teen brain can have risky behavior and a “jump in” mentality before thinking clearly. For parents and guardians there is fear, and a conundrum, when to speak or when to let Go and let God.
The devil would love to steal kill and destroy ( John 10:10) a teen before he/ she can leave their safe haven home. Culture is set on this mindset, comparison traps, alcohol, drugs, and sex are a constant draw to the dark side.
So what is a parent, guardian, or loving mentor to do with teens? Always be a safe place to listen, be nonjudgmental, observe the teens friends, get to know those who are influencing your teen. Realize your voice still carries weight, however, you may not feel it at times.
By the way, the importance of touch this time in their life is huge. I’ve read research that says giving greater than five hugs a day reminds your teen, even if they say they don’t want to hug, how much you love them. Besides us parents need hugs too. Never give up on your teen even into adulthood. They need you!
Ephesians 6:4 NLT
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
The most important thing we can do is pray for our teens. Bringing their lives to the Lord, seeking His wisdom for every moment. You will find many scriptures in this post, His word is full of powerful declarations that you can personalize by saying your teens name within the scripture.
I loved this post from Paul David Tripp, in his book “Age of Opportunity”. This book was so helpful in changing my mindset of teens, parenting with God’s character as my guide and encouraging me daily.
Paul David Tripp also states, “You know your teen lives in a fallen world. You know that he is a sinner by nature ( no different than you). You know Satan is a liar, schemer, and tempter. as a parent of a teen, you should not be shocked at the presence or power of sin. You should expect war. You should come to your relationship with your teenager armed for war— not with your teen but with the true Enemy ( Ephesians 6).
What a profound statement. God will equip you for the battle, however, you don’t fight alone. God and His angel armies are your support.
Ephesians 6:13-18 MSG
Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.
We must use the weapons of warfare in Ephesians 6, the power of prayer interceding for our teens to Jesus, teaching our teens how to use scripture aloud for their own benefit.
Ephesians 6:10-18 NLT
A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. [11] Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. [12] For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. [13] Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. [14] Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. [15] For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. [16] In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil. [17] Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. [18] Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.
God loves our teens more than we do. If they make mistakes, even if it’s hard, we want our kids to come to us. We must use the character traits of Jesus, fruits of the Holy Spirit ( Galatians 5:22-23)
Galatians 5:22-23 NLT
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [23] gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!
We must not rage at them ( in anger not sin), ask God for the patience! I know it’s not easy. Deep breathe and if you blow your top, seek forgiveness and try again with grace and mercy.
Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, [27] for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
Proverbs 15:1 NLT
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Life is a journey of joys and challenges, I am taking one step at a time, seeking Jesus for the way, so far from perfect but I know He makes me a victor and will guide me when I let Him. It is my prayer that my kids will be victorious with Him leading their lives. I pray the same for you and your family!
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